if you put a frog in boiling water, it will jump out.
if you put a frog in warm water and gradually turn up the heat until the water is boiling, the frog will remain there until it dies.
and that is an abusive relationship.
A bee can become drunk from fermented nectar and other bees will punish it by chewing off its legs.
"Hey, Pete is drunk again lets chew his legs off"
straight edge revenge